There is nothing like a new beginning.

Picking up a new hobby. Starting a new career. A new relationship…

Pure possibility.

Over the years I’ve worked with many people making big transitions in their lives. Quitting a job and starting their own business. Trying to learn a new skill. Getting out of a toxic relationship, or trying to find a new partner.

When you’re taking those first awkward steps, one of the first things we tend to do is FORGET everything we already know.

You might say, “But I don’t know how to paint,” or “I not good with numbers, so I can’t balance my checkbook.”

It’s all new- unfamiliar and uncomfortable.

What you’re forgetting is that you’ve already created success in other areas of your life- whether you realize it or not. And the same skills that helped you there, can probably help you now- if only you will use them.

Success always leave a trail. It’s just that it’s not always obvious.

Like the bookkeeper who wants to learn how to play guitar. They say, “B...

The trouble with positive thinking is…

Positive thinking! 

One of the the first things you’ll learn on the journey (and probably the last as well) is that “As you think, so you become.” 

In his book, “The Master Key System,” Charles Hanel instructs us to focus only on what you want, to the exclusion of all else. If you want to rid yourself of fear, focus only on courage, etc. 

And it’s true. 100%. 

The trouble comes in putting it into practice. Say you have fear of public speaking. So you try to follow his advice, and focus only on courage. But that fear isn’t resolved. And the more you ignore it, or try to over come it, the further you drive it into your subconscious. 

All of a sudden, you’re fighting a battle with yourself. Trying to think your way out of it, of conquer that fear by force of will. 

And now, that sage advice comes back to bite you, because it’s not just the content of your thoughts, but the quality. 

With force and willfulness, you become harsh; brittle. So ev...

Brain training is a hot topic. There is a huge market for meditation programs and apps because more and more people are realizing the need to control their focus and attention. There is even a whole supplement sub-market for enhancing brain function for more clarity and focus.

Maybe it's because more and more people are recognizing the power of their thoughts to manifest things in their life.

Or it could be because people are more and more stressed out an agitated.

And let's be honest, it's hard to feel settled when your phone is constantly pinging you with notification.

Beeping. Blinking. Buzzing. Flashing....

Our world has advanced in ways we're not well equipped to deal with, so additional training is in order I think. It couldn't hurt. That's for sure.

What most people don't realize about brain training is the same thing that people don't realize about manifesting. It's this...

You're always doing it- whether you realize it or not. Whether you want to be doing it or not. It'...

It's poem time again today. This one by our beloved Ralph Waldo Emerson, and it speaks directly to the essence of this course on self love. It's called, "The Mountain and the Squirrel." The poem...

The mountain and the squirrel
Had a quarrel,
And the former called the latter
"Little prig."
Bun replied,
"You are doubtless very big;
But all sorts of things and weather
Must be taken in together
To make up a year
And a sphere.
And I think it no disgrace
To occupy my place.
If I'm not so large as you,
You are not so small as I,
And not half so spry:
I'll not deny you make
A very pretty squirrel track.
Talents differ; all is well and wisely put;
If I cannot carry forests on my back,
Neither can you crack a nut."

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Emerson is amazing. He really knew, and love how simple and directly he puts it here.

We have an idea that bigger and stronger is better. Our world places a high value on these things and it leads the masses to try and follow suit. What you wind up with is a homogenous world de...

The self-love journey started with a peace treaty because that war inside of us actually fractures our energy and it distorts our sense of self, destroys our confidence and clarity. Along the way, there is a lot to be reconciled before we come into true unity. Reconciliation in our mind and our emotions because unity is when your heart, your mind, and your soul are all on the same page. 

When your heart and mind are at odds, there is no hope of hearing what your soul has to say about anything. The head will try to think everything through and try really hard to get the right answers. The heart will rely on things "feeling" a certain way. The soul is the true authority, and that is often a very quiet voice and it also doesn't change its mind on a whim and go bouncing all over the place. 

If you know who is really in charge and how to access that part of yourself, then the heart and mind can find their place and fall in line. This is where we move into a much greater state of Unity wit...

The better you understand yourself, the better you will understand others. 

The only reason you can see things in others that you see...

The things that inspire you

The things that frustrate you

The things that you adore

The things that you despise

All. The. Things...

You can see those things because they are in you. 

Rather than projecting onto others, we have an opportunity to seek it out in ourselves. 

So when someone does something that repulses you or frustrates you in some way, look inside with curiosity to see where that exists in you. 

Then take a step further and notice how it affects your attitude, your behavior, your perspective of yourself and others. 

Maybe even take it one step further if you can and find the wound in yourself that caused it. 

Once you see it, you can't unsee it. But you can choose something different...

And not from a place of pushing away, trying to fix, or eradicating that part of you. 

You can love it for the hurt, confused or disappoint...

When I was growing up in the Catholic Church, there were things known as “Cardinal sins.” Kind of like the unforgivable curses in Harry Potter. 

These are "the gravest of sins, representing a deliberate turning away from God and destroying charity (love) in the heart of the sinner. A mortal sin is defined as a grave action that is committed in full knowledge of its gravity and with the full consent of the sinner’s will."

And if you die with one of these on your conscience, it's a one-way ticket to hell. There's not necessarily an exhaustive list of these, but the 10 commandments is a god starting point.

But there’s one that didn’t make the list, and when it comes to self love, and sharing that love with others, it’s critical. 

It’s damaging the self worth of another. 

If we were to put it into bible speak, I suppose it would be “Thou shalt not harm the worth of others.” 

And now we have an 11th commandment. But I digress. 

Harming the self worth of others might look like…

…crit...

I always know when a new iOS update is coming because all of my apps start asking to be updated. Now don't get me started on how many of those I actually use. That's a story for another message.

Today I want to talk about the updates themselves. Because sometimes I ignore them. 20-30-50 updates piling up. And the longer I let them pile up, the more things start to get weird.

The apps start doing weird things. Not loading properly. Sometimes they're super slow. There's even one that pretends like it's going to open, only to wink out at the last moment in an endless loop.

Weird.

And if I let it keep piling up, my phone starts to act weird too. Like the gears are grinding.

And while I am a fan of keeping your tech as clean and organized as you would a physical desk or workspace. After all, a clean space supports a clear, organized mindset.

But that's not why I'm telling you this. I'm talking about this because as you grow and develop, you go through different versions and updates to...

I’ve had some pretty dysfunctional relationships in my time. And one of the common factors was a tit-for-tat system where we kept score.

Of course there was no formal system, so each person kept tally in their heads and pull out the trump card whenever they wanted something. The other person would either trot out their “list” or begrudgingly comply, like they’d just lost a round.

Like I said…dysfunctional…

I share this because when I started transitioning to a healthy and functional relationship this was one of the first things to go.

And it revealed an underlying pattern of constant score-keeping and obligation in other areas of my life as well, including my relationship with myself.

It’s important to recognize that there are fundamental aspects of being a human being- debts, if you will- that can NEVER be repaid.

Your parents being on that list, no matter what your childhood or upbringing was like. Without them, you simply would not exist.

Or how about Mother Earth and all of ...

This one comes courtesy of the Great and Powerful Kisma. She has modeled this for me for years and recently shared her secret with it. It changed my life, and I hope it does the same for you.

See, sometimes, when we make a decision, we accidentally slip back into the INDECISION.

We back-pedal in our minds.

“Did i do the right thing?”
“What if I got it wrong?”
“What if it doesn’t work out? What will I do then?”

That doubting prevents you from being all in for your decision and actually sets you up to struggle your way through carrying a ton of extra anxiety.

I used to do this all the time. But Kisma showed me another way.

See, what she does is after she makes her decision, the very next decision she makes is that that decision is the best decision ever.

And she keeps making that decision again and again. This does some very magical things.

First, it gets the head out of doubt and worry.
Second, is it uses the law of increase. When you decide that it’s the best decision ever, your...